What is trust and what in the world do cell phones have to do with it?

[Mitch Temple]

Trust is putting your hopes, dreams and heart out there in the care of another with the possibility of being deeply hurt. But its also having faith that they wont be. That though risky being vulnerable will pay off for both of you. You are willing to trust this person because you are hardwired to connect with someone- to commune, to become one. So you run this person through the filter. The filter is based on what you sense, see, hear and observe about them and in the end its a simple belief in humanity. It’s a choice to believe the best about them and expect the best from them. Then through one trust building act after another trust is built and your relationship goes to a deeper level. So you invest more and more because you are willing and can trust them.

Trust is a step toward intimacy. If it doesn’t form intimacy will not happen. You don’t feel close to someone that you can’t trust. So if you want to reap the benefits of being close and its benefits: joy, safety, contentment, satisfaction to name a few, you have to be wiling to step out onto the tight wire and walk. In order to reap substantial dividends on financial investments, you have to be vulnerable with your money. You weigh the risks, opportunities along with the past performance and reputation of the company. Then you turn your hardearned money over to someone with no real guarantees of positive outcomes. If you are never vulnerable with your money its value will basically stay the same. Success in life demands you take risks. If you don’t choose to be vulnerable with another human like your spouse or choose to be vulnerable again after they hurt you, you may never experience what’s on the other side.

If you are into the topic of trust and learning more about it, there is a cool article you should read that came out today: Go to: http://www.washingtontimes.com/news/2009/jul/26/wetzstein-best-spouse-will-take-the-sink-back/print/ The article talks about trust, building trust in a relationship and how to keep it. It even addresses the cell phone issue and how cell phones can help or hurt trust in a relationship.

After you read my postg, the article, tell me what you think. What do you agree with? Disagree with? What works/ doesn’t work in your marriage/ relationship when it comes to building trust and protecting it?